I thought compiling a guest list was tricky. Selecting bridesmaids was even harder!
Should I have asked the girlfriend of the best man to be a bridesmaid, even though I didn't know her that well (I chose not to)? What about the girlfriend of my future brother-in-law (nope)? Or my brother's girlfriend (I did ask her)?
Emotions ran high, but we managed to make it through without hurting feelings too much.
Here are a few things to consider when selecting attendants:
• There's not a set number for bridesmaids, but a good rule of thumb is to have one for every 50 guests. My husband and I went a little higher, with three bridesmaids and three groomsmen for a total of 100 guests, but it seemed to work out perfectly for us. It really comes down to the feel of the individual wedding. Formal weddings tend to have larger bridal parties, and more casual weddings can get by with fewer attendants.
• It's not a requirement to have an even number of attendants. If a bride has one more bridesmaid than her groom has groomsmen, it's not that unbalanced. We had an even number of attendants, but it just worked out that way. If it hadn't, I would not have scrambled to find an extra bridesmaid or groomsman.
• Just because I was invited to be in a high-school friend's wedding six years ago didn't mean I had to invite her to be in my wedding--so I didn't. This tradition goes back to the days when most people married in the same town they grew up in. People also tended to marry younger back then; now we don’t necessarily hit life’s milestones at the same time as our classmates.
• When in doubt, go with the relatives. If I'd had four sisters, you'd better believe I would have had four bridesmaids!